FaceWhat has struck me over the years with increasing urgency is the necessity of and importance of blessing in each life.

I have noticed it particularly through its absence, both in my own life and that of the clients and staff I have worked with as addictions therapist in different rehabs these past 14 years. By blessing, I mean the profound and unsurpassable gift one human being bestows on his brother in that moment of shared presence, of really seeing another’s unique beauty, not with the eyes but in and through the heart.

The effects of such an occurrence can be nothing short of miraculous. But such moments are rare and often missed. The grandness and intent of the soul, its need to be seen and honoured, are most often unmet when behaviour is readily labelled ‘narcissistic’ or ‘disordered’ and patients too easily condemned for ‘acting out’. Modern rehab too often fails those it seeks to serve by neglecting and misunderstanding behaviour within the narrow confines of theories that bypass the notion of soul altogether.

Again and again I have seen clients failed through lack of understanding, their essence and beauty missed just as it was in childhood by quasi-parents not in touch with their own soul and again only offering the same old carrot and stick. Finally, they are snidely put down for thinking they are ‘special and different’ as if it is some new disease rather than the soul calling for the blessing it never received way back when. What I wanted then was to find ways of working that focused on honouring the individual’s intuition of a grander destiny rather than beating him or her into an enforced humility, as is so often the case.

Drawing on the wisdom of soul-based theory, including karmic astrology, Jungian Roger Woolger’s Deep Memory Process (a form of past-life regression), mythology, re-birthing techniques and some ritual as well as meditation I have found that conventional theory, psychodynamics for instance, finds its proper place. Clients are no longer simply pathologised and judged for failing the theory’s demands, tyrannised by an imposed structure, but understood and accepted in a much wider context.